There is an epidemic of men tired of always taking the lead in the bedroom. I see it again and again when they come to me… the relief of having someone else guide the dance so they can finally let go and free fall into arousal.
I am an expert in domination, but domination is not always in its more extreme forms. Sometimes it is subtle, sensual, enticing… and yes sometimes it is nurturing… other times it is delightfully dirty and degrading. Either way, it is a chance to feel what it is like to let go and surrender to sensation and erotic beingness.
My heart goes out to those who have been socialised to believe men are only allowed to be in “doing” mode. They have been robbed of the exquisite pleasure of just being…. or opening to all that is within them… primal… held… witnessed… taken… ravished… overwhelmed with all it is that they secretly yearn for…
Regardless of gender, we humans are capable of accessing a variety of erotic states of consciousness. There are some exquisite places within that simply cannot be accessed without surrender. Imagine missing out on this because of masculinity stereotypes!
I am pleased to say that things are changing and more and more men are casting off the shackles of expectations and discovering who they are sexually when allowed to just be themselves and explore.
Each person is uniquely wired, so my challenge is to discover their erotic map to trigger this state of being in them. I can’t always find it straight away but I do have a very good track record of finding it more often than not. I relish the challenge and I am pretty damn good at it.
I find the one of the first places men learn to explore this side of themselves is often through anal play. Their butt, not mine.
Not only is the anus full of rich nerve endings, but it contains the male equivalent of the G spot. The P spot (prostate) is as fickle and hard to seduce as a woman’s G spot but similarly, once you find it blows your erotic world right open.
The spot itself is easy to locate. What is challenging is getting it to respond pleasurably. Going straight into pounding that baby like it is some sort of magic turn on button, doesn’t feel good at all. The P spot literally needs to be seduced… it needs foreplay… it needs to be coaxed into arousal gently and patiently. One needs to be in a relaxed but aroused place or the nerve endings do not switch on for pleasure.
Because of this, I have noticed a distinct pattern of men who enjoy anal play on themselves being much better lovers to the women in their lives. There is nothing quite like embodied experience to help men “get it” and become better at guiding others into that place of erotic surrender.
From single finger massage to pegging to extreme fisting, anal play is an art form. I guide men into using their breath and other techniques to open deeply… physically and mentally… There is something so intimate about being inside someone… penetrating them… Whether we agree to play dirty domination or sensually opening anal games, I can feel that intense feedback loop between us. It can be one of the most magical moments between strangers.
So whether, your preference is a full body sensual massage or to be strung up in my leather sling or bent over and restrained to my bondage bench, I invite you to feel safe to explore erotic surrender through anal eroticism with me.
To help you work out your pegging style, I have blogged about some of the different flavours here.
Other forms of erotic surrender include:
Erotic Massage with Anal Play & Edging: See why these sessions are so famous here.
Tie & Tease: Be restrained and edged… Brought to the brink but denied satisfaction until I decide to allow you the release of orgasm… Wave after wave of pleasurable torture…
Can include anal play but certainly includes edging. (Keep an eye out for a blog I am currently writing on edging)
Role Play: Perhaps you are wired to enjoy being “blackmailed” into bending over the desk and being pegged by your female boss… or an employee who has something on you and is enjoying making the thrill of making you her play thing? Perhaps you fantasise about being anally seduced by your step mother? Your teacher? Your dominant girlfriend?
Both tie and tease and role play sessions can sometimes feel right to me to be full service based. This is negotiated on a case by case scenario and my higher rate, starting from $450 an hour applies.
Mistress style play sessions are much more BDSM focused with an emphasis on Domination and submission. My power and your surrender, in this framework, is not role play but a genuine, consented to dynamic. These are NEVER full service sessions. Mistress rates and play structure, including in-depth pre-play consultation, applies.
The point is, whatever your unique erotic map, there will be a way to tap into it and find your place of erotic surrender. My expertise is to help you find it and create an opportunity to explore it… play with it… and get off on it…