De Vine by name and divine by nature. I believe each form of life has the spark of divinity within them and I am no exception. Neither are you. I identify as a Goddess of conscious kink. I have a Goddess persona.
In this persona I am deliberately playing with gendered archetypes. The truth is anyone of any sex or gender can tap into these archetypes and have a powerful experience. We all contain within us the full spectrum of possibilities. My intention here is to draw out these aspects of myself and embody them so that you can have a chance to explore your relationship to them. I become the mirror you can consciously interact with.
Like the Goddesses of myth, I have many forms and tap into many universal archetypes… Mother, Destroyer, Nurturer, Devourer, Queen, Siren, Seductress, Leader, Warrior, Demoness, Maiden… the moods of the sea… Your greatest ecstasy and your worst nightmare. The holy grail.
A Goddess knows she does not have to be hard to be powerful and takes her pleasure as she pleases. She doesn’t fit neatly into categories like dominant and submissive… straight or gay… dark or light… vanilla or kink… She has a greedy appreciation of the lot. She accesses the full spectrum of archetypes consciously and can use any colour on the personality palette to weave her play scene or ritual.
A Goddess of Conscious Kink is Sex, Death and Rebirth in all its cycles.
How do you feel when you think of these archetypes? Are you humbled and want to worship her in reverence and awe? Do you feel helpless like a small boat on the angry sea? Do you feel the urge to control her? Punish her? Beg for her attentions or mercy? What if we could consciously create a space where we could explore all of those aspects in erotic role play? What if we could be truly honest about the complex relationship we have to these archetypes and explore the different forms they take through kink play… power play… sadomasochism… sensuality?
In my Goddess persona, I create spaces for people who want to encompass, express and experience the full spectrum or a specific aspect with awareness.
How is a Kinky Goddess Session Different to a Typical Dominatrix Session?
The main difference is the intention behind the session. We intend to consciously explore archetypes of gender, power and desire in a slightly different way than traditional Mistress sessions.
There is nothing at all wrong with traditional Mistress sessions and I offer those too. If that is more to your taste then see here…
Goddess sessions tend to be more ceremonial in nature and allow for more conscious exploration of the esoteric aspects of kink, BDSM and beyond. It works really well with tantric techniques, ritual, Goddess worship, pain, ordeal, initiation, role play, psychodrama, sensory deprivation, physical restriction, service ceremonies and conscious erotic shadow exploration. I am adept at designing and creating Conscious Kink rituals to really explore the potential of our erotic shadow.
While any variety of traditional BDSM activities can be included in these sessions, they are approached with a different flavor… more mindful… more focus on states of consciousness… a clear intention for the session…connecting to and exploring our whole selves during play, including mind, body, spirit.
Each session is negotiated and designed individually depending on the intent and purpose.
Read more about Conscious Kink here…
Can you give me examples of some sessions?
A great example is the Goddess Worship Ceremony. This session suits those that are aroused by and/or drawn to being in worshipful service. It is an opportunity to mindfully enter into a state of being that allows you to feel the honor of worship with a meditative attention to detail and an embodied awareness of every exquisite and/or excruciating moment. For the length of the session I become your entire world. Everything else falls away. There is nothing but your complete service to me.
We begin with you naked before me and I guide you into a mindful state of being through breath, ceremony and deliberate symbolic acts. I have you reverently bathe my feet with warm scented water… teaching you exactly how to touch to give, not to take… teaching you how I wish to be served… As you enter deeper and deeper into the state of worship, recognising and honoring the divine spark in me… surrendering and letting go… opening deeper and deeper… you are gradually allowed to earn the right to bathe more and more of my body…
Once you have entered the right state and I am happy with your touch, you are instructed how to use your mouth in worship… until you are in full service to every nook and cranny I desire… for as long as I desire…
For some people this remains a sensual worship… some are honored with the privilege of drinking the Goddess’s golden nectar… For others it becomes an ordeal where they feel used… perhaps restrained… having their face sat on while the Goddess is indifferent to their efforts to please her… Perhaps in your fantasies The Goddess is cruel, forcing you to worship with no concern for your comfort or desire… or perhaps she is motherly and nurturing… or seductively dangerous and in control… Perhaps a regal queen… All this is negotiated. We deliberately access the aspects we both agree to explore.
Sadomasochist Goddess Ceremony Perhaps you are more of a masochist and desire to feel helpless while offering up your pain as an act of worship to the Goddess? CBT? Bondage? Caning? Flogging? Nipple torture? If so you will also be guided into an mindful state where you use each breath to offer up your pain in sacrifice. You have the opportunity to dedicate your session to a specific intention should you choose. Again the session here is focused very much on accessing certain states of embodied consciousness.
Switch Power Play and Role Play Ceremony Perhaps you are more suited to a scenario where you explore your relationship to the Goddess through role play and power play… Perhaps you are in control or perhaps I am… Maybe we switch… What attitude towards the Goddess are you drawn to explore? Are there aspects of humiliation and degradation? Of forcing desired acts? Do you want to explore age play? Or other themes of power and desire?
Again this is clearly negotiated and entered into with awareness. We have a clear beginning and end and bring it all back full circle to mutual respect at the end. It is a chance to let ourselves fully enter into a particular role and experience “what is” for the agreed span of time. This can be very powerful not to mention seriously hot!
Are you the Goddess? Perhaps you want to explore drawing on the Goddess archetypes within you? In this session you would be guided into a deep experience of drawing out the chosen archetype within you by using some simple but very powerful, guided, mindful, embodiment exercises. Once you are deeply in your persona we can explore erotic and/or power play together in that state. Perhaps through being the slut, the object of objectification, degradation, desire or just feeling the joy of sensual satins on your skin by wearing clothes traditionally seen as feminine… What would it be like for you to be worshipped or reviled as Goddess? So many possibilities!
These are just a few examples of how a Goddess session could look. Each session is designed around the unique wiring of both of us. We find where we overlap and agree on an intention and work out a scenario from there.
Do I have to be religious or new age to benefit these sessions?
Absolutely not! I do not impose my beliefs on you. You do however need to be drawn to a session where the spark of life within each or us is seen as something worth honoring. From there we can design a session around your particular worldview and intentions taking into account your personal boundaries and beliefs. However these sessions do tend to appeal to those who are into yoga, meditation and appreciate the mind, body, spirit connection. They suit those who enjoy the journey of deep self discovery and connection.
What about chakras and energy work?
Yes I believe in these things and am experienced in using them in a kinky context. We can include this side of things if you choose to but this is done with your consent, not inflicted on you. I find the more aspects of us we include in our kink play, the more profound the experience. However I cannot predict how you will experience this as it is different from person to person and session to session. I can guide you into this aspect of kink play… or not… depending on your inclinations and our agreed on intention.
I draw on aspects of tantra, taoism, sexual shamanic traditions, meditation, various erotic body-mind techniques. Mostly it is about deepening the states of consciousness possible and engaging all of us with awareness and intention.
Do these sessions include PIV (penis/dildo in vagina) sex?
Usually not but occasionally it feels right for a session to include this. I am not at all against this kind of sex! It is however my experience that when PIV becomes involved it often becomes the main focus and the richness of the kink is missed. It is my experience that in most scenarios, the places we travel to together become so much deeper when PIV is taken off the table. Furthermore, sometimes sex is simply completely irrelevant to the head space we are aiming to achieve.
Having said this, occasionally it does feel exactly the right thing to do for a particular scenario. I am happy to include PIV sex when I feel that it would honestly enhance the experience and not detract from it. And, quite frankly, if I feel like it. A Goddess tends not to do anything she doesn’t want to whether or not she is playing the submissive or dominant role. I do charge extra for sexual sessions.
Sounds great! How do I arrange a session?
We need to have a chat on the phone to work out the best way we can play together. I will guide you through working out the best kind of scenario for you. This really needs to be done by phone because we need to get a feel for each other. You can shoot me an initial email at firstname.lastname@example.org to sound out the basics of the kind of session you are after but we will need to speak in person to negotiate.
Call me between 10:30am-8pm Mon-Friday on 0420 415 658.
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